As respect can be acquired it can also be lost if care is not taken, I guess you know that already so the question is how can I protect my respect? And waow!!! You’ve got the answer below.Happy reading and understanding.
1. DON’T OVER CATCH THE FUN; It is sweet to see yourself being respected but you must be careful, in my native language (Igbo) there is a saying which states that “ihe n’ato uto n’egbu egbu” which means that anything that sweets kills and if you check it well it’s true. When you discover that someone is respecting never you allow your brains to be filled with pride because if you do, that respect will turn to envy and hatred, take yourself for example, when you find out that the girl/boy you adore so much has become proud and arrogant, what will you do? Check it out, and moreover one of the steps to developing self esteem is humility.
2. REBEL AGAINST THE NUMBER ONE RULE OF RESPECT; Now you might ask, what is this number one rule of respect? Well the number rule of respect is that respect is reciprocal, for the fact that you are being respected never you forget to respect others vice-versa because it’s likely that when you are being respected you lose regards for other people which will cause you to lose your respect an turn it to it’s direct opposite.
3. DON’T BE TOO LOSE; When you develop self esteem many people will be approaching you some of them trying to make you their playmate but be careful this time around because many of this people are just trying to spy you and when they succeed in knowing almost everything about you (your in and out) you become nothing to them and when another with self esteem comes around you become a past tense, it’s just like when a guy falls in lust with a girl all he wants is sex and when he gets what he wants an finds another girl he becomes fed up.
4. MINGLE WITH YOUR CLASS; Yes, you have to, it’s not as if am tryna tell you to be arrogant no!!! if you see people below your class relate with them normally but let it not be too much just flash your light and off it if not someone might be talking about you (admiring), how you comport yourself and all that and a stupid one amongst them will say thus , “that guy? I know him now, look at his/her number here, see the text he/she sent me ha ha ha he/she is stupid sometimes”. By that the goofy guy has painted you black and become a self esteem degrading agent in the quest to form familiarity.
Embarrassmentis something that strikes without warning especially when ignored it can make you do goofy thingslike fighting(deadly) e.t.c but it can be prevented using this few but mighty tips am gonna give to you now. Oya let’s go.
1.BUY QUALITY WEARS; quality wears must not be left out when eliminating embarrassment, you must not buy-off the whole store when buying wears you can buy few of them as your bucks allows but concentrate on the quality in other to avoid goofy things like your clothe being thorn from that bad side of your back by just a soft touch of an iron.
2.MIND THE KIND OF FRIENDS YOU FOLLOW; Yes, friends the goofy ones can be a driving force to embarrassment.
* Is your friend the type that would like to show-off? His boxing ability in just a little argument?
* Is he/she the type that likes to prove he/she can perform better than AY and basketmouth when it comes to a little misunderstanding? Likes to fight,cheat,beef,gossip e.t.c with slightest chance? If it’s so you have to quit just don’t be close not to talk of being too close take him/her slightly if you must avoid embarrassment.
3.MIND THE PLACES YOU GO; Don’t go to places where your reasoning do not match with that of those in it.
For my people in Naija avoid entering moluwe,ohakim bus e.t.c to avoid the usual “shift shift”, “conductor give me my change”, “madam shift now” and all the rest of those goofy things experienced in those buses.
4. MIND YOUR DRESS CODE; Yes, dress code matters there is a popular saying that “the way you dress is the way you are addressed” that’s true.
You wouldn’t like to be shouted at by an elderly person for exposing your booty right?
You wouldn’t like to be accused of being a prostitute right?
You wouldn’t like to be harassed by a mentally derailed person or one those area boys (touts) right? E.t.c so mind your dress code.
Mind you I don’t mean that there is anything wrong with being in or foxy but you’ve got to limit it to some extent and appear foxy but decent. Not also that dressing indecently does not only mean being naked if you are the type that puts on a suite with a pair of sandals or an Ankara made clothe together with a baseball cap e.t.c you are also dressing indecently and can receive a resounding slap on approaching a girl and so on.
5. AVOID HIGH HEEL SHOES; If you put on a high heel shoe there is the possibility that you will fall at any time and maybe in front of that girl/boy you are eyeing.
6. GO TO JOHN DAILY; Going to john daily will prevent you from excretory mess ups, you wouldn’t like everybody to runaway just because of what came out of your system or you running like Ben Johnson because of what was trying to jump out of the last segment of your excretory system, imaging you messing up while with you girl/boyfriend, to me it’s the end of that relationship, or you going to someone’s house and the first thing you ask is where is your toilet. Check it out it’s somehow and it’s the worst embarrassment you can get.
So homies check out those tips and say bye to embarrassment. See ya bye.
Written by
Javill
Javill is an upcoming Record producer, Singer, Songwriter.
To comport yourself means to behave yourself it is an act that generates self esteem (dignity), it commands respect from others it might be your co-workers, classmates e.t.c but the question people ask is this, how do I comport myself? Well, if you are one of them thank your God because I have outlined undisputable steps that you can use to provide an answer to your question.Okay lets get the ball rolling
1. FOCUS; Try to be focused on whatever you are doing. Ask yourself, what have I came here to do? Have I come here to read, write or earn myself some bucks? Answer and face the answer you gave yourself then you will see it working like magic. You will also notice that when you are focused on what you are doing you will become more successful and your mates will be consulting you to teach or enlighten them the more.
2. GET BUSY; An idle man can’t comport himself no matter how hard he tries unless he gets himself busy with something, an idle man is either gossiping or telling cock and bull stories that way you can see that he is not respecting himself because by gossiping he is indirectly volunteering himself to be insulted. So for you to comport yourself well in public you have to get busy. Because when you are busy you won’t have the time to misbehave.
3. AVOID “NOTICE ME”; Some people always want to be noticed wherever they are, they might walk into a gathering and make one useless noise only for them to be noticed, please if you are one of those people withdraw immediately that’s a very childish behavior, if you want to be noticed do it by contributing wisely to the issue being treated in the gathering. Help yourself by eliminating the “notice me” attitude and watch it happen like magic.
4. DON’T BE ALL ABOUT THE OPPOSITE SEX; Nobody in this world can say he/she does not have feelings for the opposite sex if anybody does so it’s either he/she is a liar or gay, but all the same that is not enough reason for you to be foolish, Yes if you are a boy, and your position while walking on the road is always behind a girl’s back you are foolish and if you are a girl and your route is always across bars or fast foods where paparazzis are relaxing you are a fool. Try to control yourself, there is time for everything don’t spend the vast majority of your time spinning or trying to spin the opposite sex because even when you spend 40% of your time on different people from the opposite sex you are close to being a fool.
5. STAND OUT FROM THAT FOOLISH CROWD; “When you see a group of people doing one particular thing try to find another thin to do” for instance the whole boys/girls in your school or church (it might be anywhere) might be coming there for one purpose which is to chase after girls/boys, try to not to follow them you might look “uncool” to them at first but as time goes on they will begin to wonder and start wanting to know your secret by then you have comported yourself and earned yourself some respect.Good luck
Self esteem is one of the most important properties you can boost of in life, it fetches you a lot of goodies, makes you receive favors like freebies and makes it look as if there is something God gave you which he didn’t give others, well you can’t get it through any diabolic means or through praying and fasting but you can pray to God to give you the ability to read and understand these tips that I prepared for your reading and understanding pleasure come on people let’s go.
1. APPEARANCE; This is one of the most important priorities when gunning for self esteem. Your appearance being good does not mean that you have broken a bank or that you are the son/daughter of bill gates, Aliko dangote or Mike adenuga noooo you might be poor but your appearance tells others where you are heading to after all my Webster’s dictionary tells me that appearance is an “outward show hiding the real conditions” which means that you must not be necessarily rich before you can look good. Moreover when your appearance is unpleasant you are indirectly telling other people that you are poor and have no hope thereby piecing them off.
2. NEATNESS; Neatness must be every man’s no 1 priority; it is one of the things that that attracts people to you it should have been part of your appearance but this one includes your body and mouth odor e.t.c. shave those hairy areas of your body (especially the ladies), make good use of your body spray, shampoo, toothpaste and brush e.t.c not forgetting your shaving stick, clipper (for men) e.t.c. because when you posses a bad odor the way people will be running away from you someone who does not know what’s going on might think that you are chasing them with cutlass and note that committing murder those not only mean that you are gonna pull the trigger at someone or strangle with hands or machete e.t.c if someone suffocates because of your offensive odor you have committed murder and maybe liable to go to hell, lol.
3. ATTITUDE; Ha ha ha, “this one dey bad” I know you must have had of that mesmerizing word “SWAG”, some people use this word without knowing the actual meaning thereby they go about touting themselves and degrading there self esteem. A good attitude(swag) helps generate self esteem an attitude is all about having your own way of doing things(style) like talking, walking e.t.c and composure which is your being calm. For example other guys/girls might be castigating themselves in other to spin a particular girl/boy with their fake “swag” but the way you will present yourself to the girl will make the girl/boy to admire you a lot and that’s your self esteem for you.
4. SELF COMPORTMENT; Self comportment brings about self esteem it is an aspect of attitude but I have to break it down separately because it is very very important in fact anybody who wants to develop self esteem must have this as his/her number one priority self comportment which is you respecting yourself also attracts respect from others vice-versa, it makes people want to know more about you respect you a lot which is also your self esteem for you, that guy is being insulted by a girl is because he didn’t comport himself. So people you’ve got to comport yourself anywhere anytime let’s move to the fifth tip.
5. HUMILITY; Look at the Nigerian musician 2face Idibia and you will understand exactly where am going. As Photoshop beautifies photographs so humility beautifies self esteem. Many people actually think that they are being respected when they walk as if they’ve got hunchbacks but that’s ignorance, I see arrogant people as ignoramuses there is a popular saying which states that “empty vessels makes the loudest noise” and that’s an undisputable truth . When a naija guy says, “that guy him too dey pose Na wetin him think say him be sef” and a Yankee guy asks “what you got?” then tell me have you developed self esteem? Why should you walk like someone who have got a boxing opposition to frighten, is there anybody wearing gloves around you? So stop that nonsense maeeeen arrogance is an I.D card for ignoramuses, humility is the way to self esteem.
6. INDEPENDENCE; Yes, some guys/girls turn their selves into beggars and think its smartness not knowing that they are volunteering their selves to be used as rags, that your so called boyfriend has no right to force fully demand for sex from you if you respect yourself financially, your wife won’t insult you if you are independent and financially responsible, nobody will runaway on sighting you if you are not trying to render them bankrupt with your regular begging. As there is no food for lazy man there is also no respect for a self-made beggar.
7. HONESTY; You might tell lies and get away with it but when the truth comes out your self esteem goes down, you now be regarded to as that boy/girl that likes to lie every time by then you have become a public figure on the negative side. So guys do choose to be a smart guy with no self esteem or a straightforward guy with large amount of self esteem? The choice is yours lets move to number 8
8. MANNERS; Manners is a good investment which has its profit as self-esteem people believe that someone who posses good manners is probably from a good home so you have to utilize that and upgrade your self-esteem even if you do not come from a good home it doesn’t matter just work on it, bad manners is archaic and primitive.
10. EDUCATION; This is the ultimate, without education you are a nobody, a riffraff I don’t need to explain much on this just try to compare an ssce certificate holder with a PhD or even an M.sc degree holder and see for your self.
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Javill
Javill is an upcoming Record producer, Singer an Songwriter
